pg_dump's original approach to handling extension member objects was to
run around and clear (or set) their dump flags rather late in its data
collection process.  Unfortunately, quite a lot of code expects those flags
to be valid before that; which was an entirely reasonable expectation
before we added extensions.  In particular, this explains Karsten Hilbert's
recent report of pg_upgrade failing on a database in which an extension
has been installed into the pg_catalog schema.  Its objects are initially
marked as not-to-be-dumped on the strength of their schema, and later we
change them to must-dump because we're doing a binary upgrade of their
extension; but we've already skipped essential tasks like making associated
DO_SHELL_TYPE objects.

To fix, collect extension membership data first, and incorporate it in the
initial setting of the dump flags, so that those are once again correct
from the get-go.  This has the undesirable side effect of slightly
lengthening the time taken before pg_dump acquires table locks, but testing
suggests that the increase in that window is not very much.

Along the way, get rid of ugly special-case logic for deciding whether
to dump procedural languages, FDWs, and foreign servers; dump decisions
for those are now correct up-front, too.

In 9.3 and up, this also fixes erroneous logic about when to dump event
triggers (basically, they were *always* dumped before).  In 9.5 and up,
transform objects had that problem too.

Since this problem came in with extensions, back-patch to all supported
versions.