We realized years ago that it's better for libpq to accept all
connection parameters syntactically, even if some are ignored or
restricted due to lack of the feature in a particular build.
However, that lesson from the SSL support was for some reason never
applied to the GSSAPI support.  This is causing various buildfarm
members to have problems with a test case added by commit 6136e94d,
and it's just a bad idea from a user-experience standpoint anyway,
so fix it.

While at it, fix some places where parameter-related infrastructure
was added with the aid of a dartboard, or perhaps with the aid of
the anti-pattern "add new stuff at the end".  It should be safe
to rearrange the contents of struct pg_conn even in released
branches, since that's private to libpq (and we'd have to move
some fields in some builds to fix this, anyway).

Back-patch to all supported branches.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/11297.1576868677@sss.pgh.pa.us