Some buildfarm members using CLOBBER_CACHE_ALWAYS have been having OOM
problems of late.  Commit 2455ab48 addressed this problem by recovering
space transiently used within RelationBuildPartitionDesc, but it turns
out that leaves quite a lot on the table, because other subroutines of
RelationBuildDesc also leak memory like mad.  Let's move the temp-context
management into RelationBuildDesc so that leakage from the other
subroutines is also recovered.

I examined this issue by arranging for postgres.c to dump the size of
MessageContext just before resetting it in each command cycle, and
then running the update.sql regression test (which is one of the two
that are seeing buildfarm OOMs) with and without CLOBBER_CACHE_ALWAYS.
Before 2455ab48, the peak space usage with CCA was as much as 250MB.
That patch got it down to ~80MB, but with this patch it's about 0.5MB,
and indeed the space usage now seems nearly indistinguishable from a
non-CCA build.

RelationBuildDesc's traditional behavior of not worrying about leaking
transient data is of many years' standing, so I'm pretty hesitant to
change that without more evidence that it'd be useful in a normal build.
(So far as I can see, non-CCA memory consumption is about the same with
or without this change, whuch if anything suggests that it isn't useful.)
Hence, configure the patch so that we recover space only when
CLOBBER_CACHE_ALWAYS or CLOBBER_CACHE_RECURSIVELY is defined.  However,
that choice can be overridden at compile time, in case somebody would
like to do some performance testing and try to develop evidence for
changing that decision.

It's possible that we ought to back-patch this change, but in the
absence of back-branch OOM problems in the buildfarm, I'm not in
a hurry to do that.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/CA+TgmoY3bRmGB6-DUnoVy5fJoreiBJ43rwMrQRCdPXuKt4Ykaw@mail.gmail.com