This disables an entirely unnecessary "sanity check" that causes failures
in nonblocking mode, because OpenSSL complains if we move or compact the
write buffer.  The only actual requirement is that we not modify pending
data once we've attempted to send it, which we don't.  Per testing and
research by Martin Pihlak, though this fix is a lot simpler than his patch.

I put the same change into the backend, although it's less clear whether
it's necessary there.  We do use nonblock mode in some situations in
streaming replication, so seems best to keep the same behavior in the
backend as in libpq.

Back-patch to all supported releases.