The postmaster is not supposed to do anything that depends
fundamentally on shared memory contents, because that creates
the risk that a backend crash that trashes shared memory will
take the postmaster down with it, preventing automatic recovery.
In commit 969d7cd4 I lost sight of this principle and coded
AssignPostmasterChildSlot() in such a way that it could fail
or even crash if the shared PMSignalState structure became
corrupted.  Remarkably, we've not seen field reports of such
crashes; but I managed to induce one while testing the recent
changes around palloc chunk headers.

To fix, make a semi-duplicative state array inside the postmaster
so that we need consult only local state while choosing a "child
slot" for a new backend.  Ensure that other postmaster-executed
routines in pmsignal.c don't have critical dependencies on the
shared state, either.  Corruption of PMSignalState might now
lead ReleasePostmasterChildSlot() to conclude that backend X
failed, when actually backend Y was the one that trashed things.
But that doesn't matter, because we'll force a cluster-wide reset
regardless.

Back-patch to all supported branches, since this is an old bug.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/3436789.1665187055@sss.pgh.pa.us