It turns out that the original shutdown order here does not work well.
Multiple people attempting to develop further parallel query patches
have discovered that they need to do cleanup before the DSM goes away,
and you can't do that if the parent node gets cleaned up first.

Patch by me, reviewed by KaiGai Kohei and Dilip Kumar.

Discussion: http://postgr.es/m/CA+TgmoY6bOc1YnhcAQnMfCBDbsJzROQ3sYxSAL-SYB5tMJcTKg@mail.gmail.com
Discussion: http://postgr.es/m/9A28C8860F777E439AA12E8AEA7694F8012AEB82@BPXM15GP.gisp.nec.co.jp
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