Linux provides a way to ask for a signal when your parent process dies.
Use that to make PostmasterIsAlive() very cheap.

Based on a suggestion from Andres Freund.

Author: Thomas Munro, Heikki Linnakangas
Reviewed-By: Michael Paquier
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/7261eb39-0369-f2f4-1bb5-62f3b6083b5e%40iki.fi
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/20180411002643.6buofht4ranhei7k%40alap3.anarazel.de