Move functions used only by pg_dump and pg_restore from dumputils.c to a new
file, pg_backup_utils.c. dumputils.c is linked into psql and some programs
in bin/scripts, so it seems good to keep it slim. The parallel functionality
is moved to parallel.c, as is exit_horribly, because the interesting code in
exit_horribly is parallel-related.

This refactoring gets rid of the on_exit_msg_func function pointer. It was
problematic, because a modern gcc version with -Wmissing-format-attribute
complained if it wasn't marked with PF_PRINTF_ATTRIBUTE, but the ancient gcc
version that Tom Lane's old HP-UX box has didn't accept that attribute on a
function pointer, and gave an error. We still use a similar function pointer
trick for getLocalPQBuffer() function, to use a thread-local version of that
in parallel mode on Windows, but that dodges the problem because it doesn't
take printf-like arguments.