Since 5a991ef8 we're explicitly asking for feedback from the receiving
side when shutting down walsender, if there's not yet replicated
data.

Unfortunately we didn't remember (i.e. set waiting_for_ping_response to
true) having asked for feedback, leading to scenarios in which replies
were requested at a high frequency.

I can't reproduce this problem on my laptop, I think that's because the
problem requires a significant TCP window to manifest due to the
!pq_is_send_pending() condition. But since this clearly is a bug, let's
fix it.  There's quite possibly more wrong than just this though.

While fiddling with WalSndDone(), I rewrote a hard to understand comment
about looking at the flush vs. the write position.

Reported-By: Nick Cleaton, Magnus Hagander
Author: Nick Cleaton
Discussion: CAFgz3kus=rC_avEgBV=+hRK5HYJ8vXskJRh8yEAbahJGTzF2VQ@mail.gmail.com
    CABUevExsjROqDcD0A2rnJ6HK6FuKGyewJr3PL12pw85BHFGS2Q@mail.gmail.com
Backpatch: 9.4, were 5a991ef8 introduced the use of feedback messages
    during shutdown.