In cases where Xcode is newer than the underlying macOS version,
asking xcodebuild for the SDK path will produce a pointer to the
SDK shipped with Xcode, which may end up building code that does
not work on the underlying macOS version.  It appears that in
such cases, xcodebuild's answer also fails to match the default
behavior of Apple's compiler: assuming one has installed Xcode's
"command line tools", there will be an SDK for the OS's own version
in /Library/Developer/CommandLineTools, and the compiler will
default to using that.  This is all pretty poorly documented,
but experimentation suggests that "xcrun --show-sdk-path" gives
the sysroot path that the compiler is actually using, at least
in some cases.  Hence, try that first, but revert to xcodebuild
if xcrun fails (in very old Xcode, it is missing or lacks the
--show-sdk-path switch).

Also, "xcrun --show-sdk-path" may give a path that is valid but lacks
any OS version identifier.  We don't really want that, since most
of the motivation for wiring -isysroot into the build flags at all
is to ensure that all parts of a PG installation are built against
the same SDK, even when considering extensions built later and/or on
a different machine.  Insist on finding "N.N" in the directory name
before accepting the result.  (Adding "--sdk macosx" to the xcrun
call seems to produce the same answer as xcodebuild, but usually
more quickly because it's cached, so we also try that as a fallback.)

The core reason why we don't want to use Xcode's default SDK in cases
like this is that Apple's technology for introducing new syscalls
does not play nice with Autoconf: for example, configure will think
that preadv/pwritev exist when using a Big Sur SDK, even when building
on an older macOS version where they don't exist.  It'd be nice to
have a better solution to that problem, but this patch doesn't attempt
to fix that.

Per report from Sergey Shinderuk.  Back-patch to all supported versions.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/ed3b8e5d-0da8-6ebd-fd1c-e0ac80a4b204@postgrespro.ru