Commit fab84c77 tried to get away without doing an actual bind(),
but buildfarm results show that that doesn't get the job done.  So we must
really bind to the target port --- and at least on my Linux box, we need a
listen() as well, or conflicts won't be detected.  We rely on SO_REUSEADDR
to prevent problems from starting a postmaster on the socket immediately
after we've bound to it in the test code.  (There may be platforms where
that doesn't work too well.  But fortunately, we only really care whether
this works on Windows, and there the default behavior should be OK.)