The different actions in pg_ctl had different defaults for -w and -W,
mostly for historical reasons.  Most users will want the -w behavior, so
make that the default.

Remove the -w option in most example and test code, so avoid confusion
and reduce verbosity.  pg_upgrade is not touched, so it can continue to
work with older installations.
Reviewed-by: Beena Emerson <memissemerson@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: Ryan Murphy <ryanfmurphy@gmail.com>