As pointed out by Sergey Koposov, repeated invocations of tbm_lossify can
make building a large tidbitmap into an O(N^2) operation.  To fix, make
sure we remove more than the minimum amount of information per call, and
add a fallback path to behave sanely if we're unable to fit the bitmap
within the requested amount of memory.

This has been wrong since the tidbitmap code was written, so back-patch
to all supported branches.